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Relationship Mapping

Uncommon Commonalities

Participatory Methods Uncommon Commonalities Uncommon Commonalities is a collaborative activity where participants work in teams to discover habits, traits, or experiences they have in common-but the goal is to find unusual or unexpected ones.

5 to 15 minutesTIME
Medium group (9-25), Small group (4-8)GROUP SIZE
ActiveENERGY
RemoteSETTING
High cognitive loadCOGNITIVE LOAD
Strengthens Network Design This relationship mapping exercise strengthens Network Design, one of the eight Gathering Effectiveness pillars.

How to run it

  1. Explain that the goal is to find unusual commonalities among team members.
  2. Give examples of common traits (e.g., “we all like chocolate”) and contrast them with more unexpected ones (“we all organize our books by color”).
  3. Divide participants into small groups (3-5 people).
  4. Each group receives a sheet of paper or access to a digital board to record their findings.
  5. For 10-15 minutes, teams must identify as many commonalities as possible , eliminating the obvious ones.
  6. Guiding questions can be used to facilitate the search.
  7. Each team presents their most surprising commonalities to the rest of the group.
  8. The most unexpected or creative commonalities can be highlighted or rewarded.
  9. For 10-15 minutes, teams must identify as many commonalities as possible, eliminating the obvious ones.
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Explain that the goal is to find unusual commonalities among team members.

Give examples of common traits (e.g., “we all like chocolate”) and contrast them with more unexpected ones (“we all organize our books by color”).

Each group receives a sheet of paper or access to a digital board to record their findings.

For 10-15 minutes, teams must identify as many commonalities as possible , eliminating the obvious ones.

For 10-15 minutes, teams must identify as many commonalities as possible, eliminating the obvious ones.

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Adapt this exercise for my exact room. Exercise: Uncommon Commonalities. Readiness: Publishable Draft. Core moves: Explain that the goal is to find unusual commonalities among team members.; Give examples of common traits (e.g., “we all like chocolate”) and contrast them with more unexpected ones (“we all organize our books by color”).; Each group receives a sheet of paper or access to a digital board to record their findings.; For 10-15 minutes, teams must identify as many commonalities as possible , eliminating the obvious ones.. Return a concise facilitator script with timing, wording, safety notes, and remote/in-person adjustments.

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