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Relationship Mapping

Back Scratching Research

Reciprocity is a natural part of human behavior. I"ll scratch your back if you scratch mine! Get your team to help each other out!

5 to 15 minutesTIME
Medium group (9-25), Pairs, Small group (4-8)GROUP SIZE
ActiveENERGY
In person, RemoteSETTING
Medium cognitive loadCOGNITIVE LOAD
Strengthens Network Design This relationship mapping exercise strengthens Network Design, one of the eight Gathering Effectiveness pillars.

How to run it

  1. With a big smile, a fun disposition, have players pair up, do a little stretch, then have one person scratch the other person"s back
  2. When they are done scratching, tell the scratchers, that it is their turn
  3. Folks will naturally begin to reciprocate the scratching
  4. Starting with the basic model of reciprocity such as "I scratch your back if you scratch mine
  5. Moral of the story if you start the scratching, you get the benefits
  6. Have the pairs discuss how else they can 'scratch the team"s back" In other words, how can they help each other help the team/their project, their gathering experience?
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With a big smile, a fun disposition, have players pair up, do a little stretch, then have one person scratch the other person"s back

When they are done scratching, tell the scratchers, that it is their turn

Folks will naturally begin to reciprocate the scratching

Starting with the basic model of reciprocity such as "I scratch your back if you scratch mine

Moral of the story if you start the scratching, you get the benefits

Have the pairs discuss how else they can 'scratch the team"s back" In other words, how can they help each other help the team/their project, their gathering experience?

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Adapt this exercise for my exact room. Exercise: Back Scratching Research. Readiness: Publishable Draft. Core moves: With a big smile, a fun disposition, have players pair up, do a little stretch, then have one person scratch the other person"s back; When they are done scratching, tell the scratchers, that it is their turn; Folks will naturally begin to reciprocate the scratching; Starting with the basic model of reciprocity such as "I scratch your back if you scratch mine. Return a concise facilitator script with timing, wording, safety notes, and remote/in-person adjustments.

Origin unverified

  • Where we observed it: The strongest current observations come from Relationship Makers Handbook; aggregators are listed as additional observations, not origin proof. (1 source observed, including Relationship Makers Handbook.)
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  • No efficacy claims: appearing in this library is not a claim that the exercise is proven effective. Facilitator judgment and context decide whether it works for a given room.
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