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Relationship Mapping

SECRET COACHES

SECRET COACHES is a relationship mapping exercise that helps participants build useful connections and understand how people, roles, or ideas relate.

5 to 15 minutesTIME
Medium group (9-25)GROUP SIZE
ActiveENERGY
In person, RemoteSETTING
Medium cognitive loadCOGNITIVE LOAD
Strengthens Network Design This relationship mapping exercise strengthens Network Design, one of the eight Gathering Effectiveness pillars.

How to run it

  1. Search thiagi.com Freebies Training Games SECRET COACHES SECRET COACHES Copyright © 1997, Sivasailam Thiagarajan.
  2. Here's a neat activity to ensure that everyone shares the responsibility for maintenance functions during a team meeting.
  3. When participants arrive, they write their names on individual index cards.
  4. At the start of the meeting, someone collects these cards, turns them upside down, shuffles them, and passes them around.
  5. For example, if your protégé, John, is withdrawn, you may encourage him by saying, "What do you think of Mary's idea, John?" On the other hand, if John dominates the discussion, you may ask Mary, "What do you think of John's idea, Mary?" Set aside 5 minutes at the end of the meeting.
  6. Ask participants to identify their secret coaches.
  7. For example, if your protégé, John, is withdrawn, you may encourage him by saying, "What do you think of Mary's idea, John?" On the other hand, if John dominates the discussion, you may ask Mary, "W
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Here's a neat activity to ensure that everyone shares the responsibility for maintenance functions during a team meeting.

When participants arrive, they write their names on individual index cards.

At the start of the meeting, someone collects these cards, turns them upside down, shuffles them, and passes them around.

For example, if your protégé, John, is withdrawn, you may encourage him by saying, "What do you think of Mary's idea, John?" On the other hand, if John dominates the discussion, you may ask Mary, "What do you think of John's idea, Mary?" Set aside 5 minutes at the end of the meeting.

Ask participants to identify their secret coaches.

For example, if your protégé, John, is withdrawn, you may encourage him by saying, "What do you think of Mary's idea, John?" On the other hand, if John dominates the discussion, you may ask Mary, "W

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Adapt this exercise for my exact room. Exercise: SECRET COACHES. Readiness: Publishable Draft. Core moves: Here's a neat activity to ensure that everyone shares the responsibility for maintenance functions during a team meeting.; When participants arrive, they write their names on individual index cards.; At the start of the meeting, someone collects these cards, turns them upside down, shuffles them, and passes them around.; For example, if your protégé, John, is withdrawn, you may encourage him by saying, "What do you think of Mary's idea, John?" On the other hand, if John dominates the discussion, you may ask Mary, "What do you think of John's idea, Mary?" Set aside 5 minutes at the end of the meeting.. Return a concise facilitator script with timing, wording, safety notes, and remote/in-person adjustments.

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