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General Collaboration Exercise · Constructive Conflict

Attraction Over Argument exercise

Suggested Exercises: ATTRACT, DON’T FIGHT - Prepare contrasting pairs of personal desires (“I want quiet”/ “I want to blast this song”; “Wake up”/ “Let me sleep”; “Being healthy is awesome”/ “Cigarettes make me cool”).

5 to 15 minutesTIME
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Low cognitive loadCOGNITIVE LOAD
Strengthens Problem Specificity This constructive conflict exercise strengthens Problem Specificity, one of the eight Gathering Effectiveness pillars.

How to run it

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  2. You want your older brother to build a sandcastle with you.
  3. Have so much fun building a sand castle on your own that he has to come engage with what you want.
  4. Suggested Exercises: ATTRACT, DON’T FIGHT - Prepare contrasting pairs of personal desires (“I want quiet”/ “I want to blast this song”; “Wake up”/ “Let me sleep”; “Being healthy is awesome”/ “Cigarettes make me cool”).
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You want your older brother to build a sandcastle with you.

Have so much fun building a sand castle on your own that he has to come engage with what you want.

Suggested Exercises: ATTRACT, DON’T FIGHT - Prepare contrasting pairs of personal desires (“I want quiet”/ “I want to blast this song”; “Wake up”/ “Let me sleep”; “Being healthy is awesome”/ “Cigarettes make me cool”).

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Adapt this exercise for my exact room. Exercise: Attraction Over Argument exercise. Readiness: Publishable Draft. Core moves: Sort by Relevance Newest first Oldest first; You want your older brother to build a sandcastle with you.; Have so much fun building a sand castle on your own that he has to come engage with what you want.; Suggested Exercises: ATTRACT, DON’T FIGHT - Prepare contrasting pairs of personal desires (“I want quiet”/ “I want to blast this song”; “Wake up”/ “Let me sleep”; “Being healthy is awesome”/ “Cigarettes make me cool”).. Return a concise facilitator script with timing, wording, safety notes, and remote/in-person adjustments.

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