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# Deeper Why

Participants pair up to reflect on and answer four progressive identity questions: Who are you, What are you, Where are you, and Why are you. They capture personal notes and share aloud only what they choose.

**Time:** 15 minutes. UWT suggested duration to allow thoughtful pacing across all four questions within the source 5 to 15 minute range.
**People:** 4 to 24. Pairs (or trios if total headcount is odd)

## Choose this exercise

**Purpose:** Articulate personal roles, values, and motivations through structured peer inquiry.
**Use it when:** Use during a retreat, onboarding phase, or project kickoff when participants need to consider their roles and motivations beyond job titles.
**Skip it when:** Skip when a group lacks basic rapport or when personal reflection would feel intrusive during a transactional, high-urgency meeting.

## Materials and tools

- One index card or scratch paper per participant
- One pen or pencil per participant
- Display board or slide showing the four questions

## Before participants arrive

1. Arrange chairs in pairs facing each other with enough physical buffer so spoken conversations do not overlap heavily.
2. Write the four questions where all participants can view them: 1. Who are you? 2. What are you? 3. Where are you? 4. Why are you?

## Say this to open

Find a partner. We will work through four short questions together. For each question, take 30 seconds of quiet writing, then take turns sharing your response with your partner for one minute each. You decide how personal or professional to make your answers, and you can pass on any prompt.

## How to run it

### 1. Frame and organize pairs (2 minutes)

Direct participants to form pairs. If an odd number is present, create one trio. Announce the sequence and ground rules: quiet writing first, then equal sharing time, with full choice over what to disclose.

### 2. Explore Who and What (5 minutes)

Present the first prompt: 'Who are you?' Give 30 seconds for private writing. Then pairs share for 60 seconds per person, or trios for 40 seconds per person. Repeat the same structure for 'What are you?': 30 seconds writing, then 60 seconds each in pairs or 40 seconds each in trios. Each prompt takes 2.5 minutes in either format. Example: a participant might answer 'Who' with personal traits or community roles, and 'What' with professional functions or personal metaphors.

### 3. Explore Where and Why (5 minutes)

Present the third prompt: 'Where are you?' Give 30 seconds for private writing, then 60 seconds per person in pairs or 40 seconds per person in trios. Repeat the same timings for 'Why are you?'. Each prompt takes 2.5 minutes in either format. Remind participants they may interpret these literally, geographically, or existentially.

### 4. Plenary debrief (3 minutes)

Reconvene the full group. Ask two or three volunteers to share an observation about how their responses shifted as the questions progressed. Do not ask participants to reveal their private written notes.


## Debrief questions

- Which of the four questions felt simplest to answer, and which required the most pause?
- How did your perspective shift between answering 'Who are you' and 'Why are you'?
- What theme from your answers connects to how you want to work together?

**Finished output:** Completed personal notes retained privately by each participant, with optional insights shared in plenary.

## Remote

Create breakout rooms for pairs (or trios for odd numbers). Post each question one at a time using broadcast messages or provide the full four-question list in the chat. Manage the central timer and prompt speaker swaps via broadcast notifications. Bring all rooms back for the plenary debrief. Use 60-second speaking turns in pairs and 40-second turns in trios after each 30-second writing interval.

## Hybrid

Pair in-person participants with each other and remote participants into dedicated breakout rooms. Do not pair an online participant with an in-person attendee unless each has their own headset and device in a separate room. Display the questions on both the shared screen and the physical room board.

## Access and participation choices

- Participants may respond entirely through workplace roles or choose deeper personal reflection.
- Anyone may pass on speaking during their turn and instead use the time for silent reflection.
- Participants may write notes or simply ponder without writing.

## If the session gets stuck

**A partner dominates the speaking time and leaves no room for the other person.**

Use an audible chime at the halfway mark of each question round to announce a mandatory switch in speaker.

**Participants get stuck or confused by the abstract nature of 'What are you?' or 'Why are you?'.**

Clarify that questions can be answered in any way that makes sense to them, whether literal, functional, metaphorical, or values-based.


## Sources and adaptation

Observed in Playmeo, where the activity is attributed to John Grund.

Retained the core four-question progression (Who, What, Where, Why) and pair-sharing mechanic observed in Playmeo. Added explicit 30-second silent writing buffers before speaking, fixed turn-taking intervals, hybrid and remote accommodations, and a structured debrief sequence. UWT clarified 40-second trio turns alongside 60-second pair turns so all four prompts fit the existing 15-minute adaptation.

[Playmeo](https://www.playmeo.com/activities/debriefing-activities/deeper-why)

[Playmeo](https://www.playmeo.com/activities/debriefing-activities/deeper-why/)

Current run sheet: https://unitedwetransform.com/exercises/thoughtful-reflection-activity-for-personal-growth-deeper-why/