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Help me prepare and run the exercise below. First ask for my participant count, time, setting, access needs and intended result. Check these against the stated limits. Use the supplied rules and materials. Explain any proposed changes before using them, and label them as adaptations. Do not invent source claims or require personal disclosure. Give me one step at a time when I say start. I manage the people, physical activity and clock; do not claim to observe the room. Ask me what happened before choosing a next step.

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# Observing Change

Partners observe each other, turn around to alter small personal items or posture, and then try to identify the changes. A whole-group debrief connects noticing small visual details to listening and observation habits in meetings.

**Time:** 10 minutes. Source indicates 5 to 15 minutes. UWT standard plan sets 10 minutes.
**People:** 4 to 24. Pairs. If there is an odd count, form exactly one trio where partners observe in a small circle.

## Choose this exercise

**Purpose:** Notice and identify three discrete physical or visual changes made by a partner.
**Use it when:** Use during communication or active listening workshops to kick off an exploration of situational awareness and observation.
**Skip it when:** Skip if participants are uncomfortable with sustained visual inspection or if physical alterations cause discomfort.

## Materials and tools

- Timer or stopwatch for the facilitator

## Before participants arrive

1. Clear enough open floor space for pairs to stand face-to-face roughly four feet apart.

## Say this to open

Pair up and face your partner. For the next sixty seconds, observe your partner silently to notice details like accessories, rolled sleeves, or posture. When time is called, both of you will turn around and change three small things about your appearance.

## How to run it

### 1. Pair and observe (2 minutes)

Explain the task using the opening script. Direct participants into pairs. Start the sixty-second timer. Partners silently observe each other's visual details without speaking or touching.

### 2. Make changes (2 minutes)

Call time. Direct everyone to turn back-to-back. Give participants 60 seconds to alter exactly three details about their appearance or stance (for example: moving a watch to the other wrist, unbuttoning a collar, or crossing ankles). Do not force anyone to remove personal or religious garments.

### 3. Spot the differences (3 minutes)

Call time. Direct partners to turn and face each other again. Partner A takes 60 seconds to guess the three changes made by Partner B. Then Partner B takes 60 seconds to guess the three changes made by Partner A. If working in a trio, assign an order so each person guesses in turn.

### 4. Debrief (3 minutes)

Gather the full room. Ask two debrief questions. Invite three or four volunteers to share reflections within the remaining time.


## Debrief questions

- Which changes were easiest to spot, and which were overlooked?
- How did focusing closely on visual details feel compared to routine daily observation?
- What helps you notice subtle shifts in people's engagement during regular team discussions?

**Finished output:** Pairs successfully identify partner modifications or reveal their three changes.

## Remote

Run in breakout pairs with webcams on. Partners observe each other on camera for 60 seconds, turn their cameras off for 60 seconds to alter three visible items (glasses, hair clip, background object, collar), then turn cameras back on to take turns guessing.

## Hybrid

Pair in-person participants with in-person partners, and remote participants with remote partners in digital breakout rooms. Conduct timing and whole-room debrief together via the main room audio feed.

## Access and participation choices

- Participants may use seated postures or adjust desktop items instead of personal clothing.
- Participants may choose to be observers who help track time, or opt into the verbal alternative by sharing and swapping short biographical facts instead of visual examination.

## If the session gets stuck

**A participant runs out of ideas or feels awkward changing their clothes.**

Remind everyone that posture, shifting a ring, untying a shoelace, or holding a pen in the other hand counts as an alteration.

**Participants reveal their changes immediately instead of letting their partner guess.**

Prompt partners to ask guessing questions first and confirm only after their partner has made three guesses.


## Sources and adaptation

Observed in Relationship Makers Handbook, page 278.

Retained the pair observation, three-change mechanic, and trio exception from the source. Added explicit timing bands, facilitator script, structured turn-taking, and remote video camera handling.

Current run sheet: https://unitedwetransform.com/exercises/observing-change/