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# Do Talk Give Take

Participants map their professional or community roles onto a two-by-two matrix defined by action (Do vs. Talk) and exchange (Give vs. Take). Working individually and then in pairs, people examine where their energy goes across different relationships.

**Time:** 15 minutes. Expanded from the under-5-minute source prompt to allow individual mapping, pair exchange, and structured room debrief.
**People:** 4 to 24. Individual reflection followed by pairs or triads

## Choose this exercise

**Purpose:** Map personal tendencies and balance across current roles using a two-axis behavioral grid.
**Use it when:** Use during self-reflection, role clarity, or team balance sessions when members want to examine how they show up across different projects or relationships.
**Skip it when:** Skip when team psychological safety is low, or if people might use the matrix to label or judge colleagues' personalities.

## Materials and tools

- One printed matrix worksheet per person
- Pens or markers for each participant
- Wall chart or slide showing the two-by-two matrix (Do/Talk on one axis, Give/Take on the other)

## Before participants arrive

1. Print the matrix worksheet for each participant.
2. Draw the two-by-two matrix on a central flipchart or prepare a digital slide.

## Say this to open

Today we will map how we show up across different roles we hold. Each of us acts differently depending on the context. Take a worksheet. One axis runs from Do to Talk. The other runs from Give to Take. You will place two to four of your current roles on the grid based on how you usually behave in them.

## How to run it

### 1. Introduce the matrix (3 minutes)

Display the two-by-two grid. Define the axes: Do means primarily taking concrete action, while Talk means primarily communicating, planning, or facilitating. Give means contributing resources, attention, or effort, while Take means receiving guidance, assets, or support. Give one neutral example: in a volunteer project, someone might be a Doer/Giver who sets up tables, while as a trainee in a seminar, they might be a Talker/Taker who asks questions and absorbs lessons. State clearly that every quadrant serves a purpose and no box is negative.

### 2. Individual mapping (4 minutes)

Participants choose three or four specific roles they currently hold at work or in their communities. Each person writes these roles into the corresponding quadrants on their personal worksheet. Emphasize that notes can remain private.

### 3. Pair discussion (5 minutes)

Ask participants to pair up. If there is an odd number, form one triad. In pairs, each person shares one role they mapped and what led them to place it there, or simply discusses whether their roles feel balanced across the quadrants. Each partner gets two minutes to speak. Partners can pass on sharing any personal detail.

### 4. Room debrief (3 minutes)

Gather the full group. Ask two to three volunteers to share general patterns they observed about their distribution, without naming sensitive details. Keep turns brief.


## Debrief questions

- Which quadrant felt most natural to you across your roles, and which felt rare?
- What happens when someone stays entirely in the Give or Do quadrants across all their work?
- What is one small shift you might make in how you approach one of your roles?

**Finished output:** A completed personal 2x2 grid mapping each participant's self-selected roles across Do/Talk and Give/Take.

## Remote

Share a link to a digital whiteboard or printable template with the 2x2 grid. Run the individual mapping step on scratch paper or private boards. Send participants to breakout rooms of two for 5 minutes. Conduct the room debrief via voice or chat text.

## Hybrid

Ensure remote participants have a digital or printable copy of the template. Pair remote participants with remote partners in breakout rooms, and room participants with in-person partners, so conversations run smoothly without audio cross-talk.

## Access and participation choices

- Participants choose which roles to evaluate and may use professional projects only.
- Sharing sheets with a partner or the room is optional; participants may speak about general insights without showing their papers.
- Participants who prefer typing can post reflections in chat during remote sessions.

## If the session gets stuck

**Participants view Take or Talk as negative labels.**

Intervene immediately to clarify definitions. Taking can mean learning, receiving mentorship, or accepting needed help. Talking includes coaching, aligning, and teaching. Every functioning team requires both sides.

**Someone feels uncomfortable discussing personal life roles.**

Clarify that roles should be restricted to workplace projects, team functions, or public community work whenever preferred.


## Terms used here

- Do vs. Talk axis: The spectrum between acting directly on tasks and communicating, facilitating, or discussing.
- Give vs. Take axis: The spectrum between providing output and support versus absorbing information, guidance, or team resources.

## Participant material: Role Matrix Worksheet

DO / TALK / GIVE / TAKE MATRIX

Axes:
- Vertical Axis: GIVE (Top) vs. TAKE (Bottom)
- Horizontal Axis: DO (Left) vs. TALK (Right)

Quadrants:
1. Top-Left: DO + GIVE (Executing, providing labor, direct hands-on support)
2. Top-Right: TALK + GIVE (Advising, encouraging, speaking up for others, teaching)
3. Bottom-Left: DO + TAKE (Executing tasks assigned by others, hands-on apprenticeship)
4. Bottom-Right: TALK + TAKE (Asking questions, receiving coaching, seeking clarification)

Prompt: Write 3 to 4 current roles you hold into the quadrants that reflect your most common behavior in that role.

## Sources and adaptation

Observed in Relationship Makers Handbook, pages 144-145, under the title 'Do Talk Give Take'.

The source fragment from the Relationship Makers Handbook outlines a matrix with axes Do, Talk, Give, and Take applied to personal roles or customer relationships. UWT standardized the layout to a clear 2x2 grid, expanded the under-5-minute prompt into a structured 15-minute workshop flow with explicit boundary choices, replaced the colloquial examples with professional context, and removed suggestions to map other people's names to maintain a safe and respectful environment.

Current run sheet: https://unitedwetransform.com/exercises/do-talk-give-take/