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Relationship Mapping

3 Things that Need to be True

Quick Description By establishing what needs to be true at a personal level, you can set the bar for what the gathering can accomplish you can do this with professional things that need to be true as well Process Introduce the exercise to the participants.

5 to 15 minutesTIME
Medium group (9-25), Small group (4-8)GROUP SIZE
QuietENERGY
In personSETTING
Medium cognitive loadCOGNITIVE LOAD
Strengthens Network Design This relationship mapping exercise strengthens Network Design, one of the eight Gathering Effectiveness pillars.

How to run it

  1. e.=Use the 3 Things I Know to Be True Poem for inspiration f.=The difference between being passionate about something versus invested in
  2. Ask each person to write down 3 things that need to be true
  3. a.=Personal b.=Professional c.=Objectives related to the gathering or from a larger perspective Do this in silence and give them at least 30 seconds
  4. Ask them to join a People Science group or turn to the person sitting behind them not the person next to
  5. them as they probably already know that person and share their truths
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Prompts to use +

e.=Use the 3 Things I Know to Be True Poem for inspiration f.=The difference between being passionate about something versus invested in

Ask each person to write down 3 things that need to be true

a.=Personal b.=Professional c.=Objectives related to the gathering or from a larger perspective Do this in silence and give them at least 30 seconds

Ask them to join a People Science group or turn to the person sitting behind them not the person next to

them as they probably already know that person and share their truths

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Adapt this exercise for my exact room. Exercise: 3 Things that Need to be True. Readiness: Publishable Draft. Core moves: e.=Use the 3 Things I Know to Be True Poem for inspiration f.=The difference between being passionate about something versus invested in; Ask each person to write down 3 things that need to be true; a.=Personal b.=Professional c.=Objectives related to the gathering or from a larger perspective Do this in silence and give them at least 30 seconds; Ask them to join a People Science group or turn to the person sitting behind them not the person next to. Return a concise facilitator script with timing, wording, safety notes, and remote/in-person adjustments.

Origin unverified

  • Where we observed it: The strongest current observations come from Relationship Makers Handbook; aggregators are listed as additional observations, not origin proof. (1 source observed, including Relationship Makers Handbook.)
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  • No efficacy claims: appearing in this library is not a claim that the exercise is proven effective. Facilitator judgment and context decide whether it works for a given room.
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